I did a little research and I read where about 80% of our thoughts each day are negative. OH EM GEE. I was not okay with that number. Overall, I am an extremely positive person and I am hoping I have no where near that number — but for some reason I just can’t be that positive with myself.
So over this last week I have attempted to only say kind things to myself. And if I began to think negatively about myself I would try to stifle those thoughts by saying something positive instead.
So here’s what I found out over the last week — I say a lot of negative things about myself.
My first few days of the challenge were the worst. I wasn’t in a good place, mentally, and I was being extremely hard on myself. Once I recognized this, I started writing down all of the negative thoughts I was having about myself and beside them I would write something positive. I am going to be extremely raw and honest here and show you a few of those thoughts.
I am not good enough – I am worthy
I have cankles – I am thankful for my legs
I am not pretty enough to be in front of the camera – Just because you don’t look like someone who is pretty, doesn’t mean you are not pretty
I am stupid – Everyone makes mistakes, it is proof that you are trying
I will never be successful – You are on your own journey and finding what works for you
That barely scratches the surface of all the negative thoughts I had. But it was crazy the difference it made when I became aware of how frequent those thoughts happened, and especially when I made them somewhat tangible by writing them down.
I have a feeling I’m not the only one with thoughts like this. Why is it that we are so quick to tear ourselves down? I just want to encourage you and let you know that you are not alone in your struggles. I also want to encourage you to stop those thoughts, to be kind to yourself and to BE yourself. You were created with a purpose that no one else has and the world needs you. Write down positive things, things you like about yourself, something you’re good at. You may be thinking you have nothing special to offer the world, but I’m here to tell you that you DO! Someone out there needs to hear what you have to say, to see what you create, to be encouraged by you. Others will see your strength and be inspired to do the same.
I am beyond grateful that I decided to take this little challenge for myself. Not only did it help me recognize what I was doing, but it gave me more courage to BE myself. I started watering my own garden if that makes sense, and I began to see a few flowers pop up. Self-care is something I have never been good at, but I think I am beginning to change that now.
If and WHEN I start to have bad days again and being to tear myself down, I may just have to challenge myself again.