There is a cycle I tend to go through every so often and it typically begins with the comparison game. Comparing leads to destructive thinking, which in turn leads to anxiety and doubt and so on. You’re probably familiar with how it goes because more than likely, you struggle with this too.
This thought cycle has seemingly plagued me most of my life and it all stems from my own insecurities and my perfectionist nature and oftentimes, it consumes me.
And to be honest, I am tired of it. I am tired of wasting time in frivolous worry. I am tired of being consumed by these thoughts.
With that being said, I have set a goal for myself. A goal to stop comparing.
How successful I am with this goal remains in question. I am certain to fall back into the trap of comparing but if I do, my plan is to redirect my thoughts and realign my heart with these things:
1. Comparison robs us of joy
Let’s be honest, who hasn’t heard the phrase “comparison is the thief of joy”? It seems a bit overused these days. But you know what? It’s true. How are we to possibly to enjoy what we have when we are constantly comparing our inferiorities to others? Which leads me to my next thought…
2. Remember your blessings
Have you ever read that if you have food, clothes and a roof over your head you are richer than 75% of the world? Perhaps that is an overestimate or an underestimate, I don’t know. But regardless, it’s a good wake up call. Especially when I am concerning myself over the size of my house or the followers I have on my instagram account.
3. Encourage others
Instead of comparing ourselves to someone else, let’s encourage instead. Celebrate the talents of others. Building someone else up will always be more rewarding than tearing yourself (or someone else) down.
4. One Body, Many Parts
I Cor 12:15-19 “Suppose the foot says, “I am not a hand. So I don’t belong to the body.” By saying this, it cannot stop being part of the body. And suppose the ear says, “I am not an eye. So I don’t belong to the body.” By saying this, it cannot stop being part of the body. If the whole body were an eye, how could it hear? If the whole body were an ear, how could it smell? God has placed each part in the body just as he wanted it to be. If all the parts were the same, how could there be a body? As it is, there are many parts. But there is only one body.
Instead of envying the abilities or talents of others, realize that we all possess different gifts that make up the body of Christ and without that diversity, the body would not be complete. Our uniqueness was on purpose. And let’s be honest, the world would be pretty boring if we were all the same.
5. Your self-worth is rooted in Christ
My most important point.
We are God’s masterpiece. (Ephesians 2:10) His work of art. We are fearfully and wonderfully made. (Psalms 139:14) Nothing can separate us from His love. (Romans 8:35)
Try to see yourself as God sees you. Think of how valuable you are to Him, just they way you are, just how He created you. So valuable, in fact, that He sent Jesus to rescue you from this terrible world, to die for you.
Root your identity in Him and you will no longer identify with your problems or your weaknesses. Only His grace, which is sufficient.