Do you ever take breaks from social media?
I took an unintentional break three weeks ago. A few days passed without posting and then a few weeks.
While I wasn’t posting, a lot was impressed upon my heart and those thoughts kept me off social for longer.
It’s no secret that social media has changed so much about how we live our lives. Numbers now determine our value and when those numbers aren’t high enough, depression and anxiety sets in. We are taught to look a certain way, to buy “the perfect” sweater and somehow that will equate to having that seemingly perfect life that social media portrays. There is so much undue pressure to keep up with that life, which is impossible, and we often lose ourselves and our identity in the pursuit of it.
I started asking myself, am I contributing to this cycle? Maybe I’m not. But then again, maybe I am. I never want someone to feel less than or not good enough when they come to my feed.
I also started asking myself how much that cycle affects me. I know there are many times when I see someone else’s post and immediately begin feeling poorly about myself.
I still want to post on Instagram, because I love sharing outfits and I love connecting with you guys. But it’s going to be different. Some days I’ll get ready, some days I won’t, some days I’ll have a clean house, most days I won’t. Some days I’ll look for the aesthetic moment, some days I won’t. I am releasing that gnawing feeling of having to always keep up. To put on makeup, fix my hair before I post. Or make myself look put together, which in real life 98% of the time I am not. For example, Instagram filters that make you look airbrushed — no more. I shouldn’t be ashamed of how my face looks. Our skin is meant to have texture and moles and scars and freckles. Erasing that only perpetuates the problem. And maybe I’m mostly talking to myself about all of this, but I know I can’t be the only one who feels this way.
I also know I have a lot of work to do on myself. That MY self worth often hangs on a like or an unfollow.
And please know I do not mean to come down on those who choose the opposite from me. I understand that pretty sells, perfect sells, a curated feed sells. And so many women have achieved financial freedom through social media and they deserve it. But when did Instagram only become commercials and highlights? There is such a lack of authenticity and realness now and a lot less creating for the sake of creating, not in desperation to achieve a certain lifestyle.
I would love to know your thoughts on this topic. Do you feel pressure to look a certain way on Instagram?